for me, the walls of the watchtower were not destroyed by a single giant cannon-ball but rather every brick had been weakened and suddenly the whole thing just 'collapsed'.. i've alwys been an avid reader and a firm believer that you can learn anything and everything from a good book.
anyway, i was reading a bad book, the creation book, and this time things were different.. normally, the mere thought that the wts could "not be right" could not even be contemplated.
it was like you can't even comprehend the concept or understand the question, least of all imagine it.. yet now, i read the book and things were screaming at me from the pages.
Simon, Angharad,
this is a very interesting story. Angharad, did you have doubts before all this blew up? When you compare your story to Shotgun's or several others who have questioned the org and had the elders come to 'shepherd' Angharad's reaction is uncommon in that it seems to be a recurrent theme that one partner doggedly resists seeing through all the BS.
I am very glad for you that Angharad didn't do the ostrich thing.
for all the ones that are married out there.
i'm newly married, but i think there's a problem.
i'm just going to go over the morning and say that this is a typical day.
Tuesday, sorry from what you wrote it seemed like she was griping because you would rather be at the gym than with her.
Nos, there have been several occasions where you have penned extremely negative responses to people's personal situations. I think you've been burnt big time and it greatly colours your view of relationships and you seem very pessimistic.
You've got to see beyond the superficial, by that I mean you have to be able to see the reasons for what is happening and not just focus on your own feelings. Several people have mentioned the miscarraige, that is a big issue you both need to deal with. If your wife is depressed it may mean you have to take on the bulk of the household chores as she may be so low she cannot cope with her fair share. Be gentle and show her that despite you being pissed off at the way things have gone you still love her; blazing in and giving her a shouting match will only end up making the situation even worse.
for all the ones that are married out there.
i'm newly married, but i think there's a problem.
i'm just going to go over the morning and say that this is a typical day.
Nos, you have some serious issues, negativity and self centredness being two of them. Telling Tuesday that he's f**ked and to bin his marraige is completely reprehensible.
I am in my third long term relationship, the previous 2 being 5 years plus each and I totally agree with Franklin, some times you go through a sticky patch. Tuesday, you are still young and growing into the relationship; hell, part of the fun is growing together and learning from your mistakes as a team. Talk to her and be committed to fixing things, if you aren't committed to your marraige how do you expect it to last?
for all the ones that are married out there.
i'm newly married, but i think there's a problem.
i'm just going to go over the morning and say that this is a typical day.
I guess I posted just as you did - sounds like case 2 then.
The advice still stands, talk to her about it and be realistic rather than accusatorial. Make allowance for the fact that she probably still feels like shit after the miscarraige.
I know this is a bit anal but maybe working out a list of chores and who does what may help
Talking is the key to a good marraige, if that stops it all goes pear shaped
for all the ones that are married out there.
i'm newly married, but i think there's a problem.
i'm just going to go over the morning and say that this is a typical day.
sounds to me like you have one of two possible problems. Either:
1) You are a bone idle lazy fecker and need to pull your finger out before your wife leaves you or
2) Your wife expects you to do more around the house than she does.
I would lean towards 1. Sounds like you need to do more around the house and show a desire to spend time with her, is it really that much of a drag to spend the evening with her rather than go to the gym? If it is then you have a very unhealthy relationship and need to get counselling. I would say she is probably feeling resentful that the house is a shithole and that you aren't prepared to do anything about it and would also prefer to spend time at the gym rather than with her.
I've been married 5 months now although we have lived together for 2 years and occasionally get the same thing, mainly due to me not pulling my weight in the household chores. I work long hours too and commute 80 miles each way to work each day so leave the house at 7:30 and get back the same sort of time in the evening, that doesn't mean that my wife gets the honour of being my house maid (well not always) as she works full time too.
Firstly you should be sat down and talking to her about it, rather than talking to people here. And don't be all defensive when you do sit down with her to talk about it - acknowledge your own mistakes rather than looking to blame her for everything.
Hey, at least she still wants to have sex with you, things could be worse.
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wife swapping,child molestion, adultery.... i believe that a wt article once said the above.. know any instances of the above among elders?
no, not a punch up. The elder in question was being spit roasted.
If it was reported to the congregation I have a feeling the homosexuality would have ensured his DFing. They don't like that sort of thing in the deep south - much like the deep south of the USA except we have more combine harvesters and less cotton.
http://www.watchtowerinformationservice.org/mysister.html
and also the young man's story.
http://www.watchtowerinformationservice.org/mystory.html.
Who me? I'm just a horny little devil
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i hope i won't b deleted from this board.. michael jackson says when he was young that men slept in the same bed as him.. was this when he was a jw?.
some folk in jws thought he was the archangel michael.
they were obviously very stupid then.
Does anyone actually know when MJ stopped assosiating with the dubs, or whether or not he was ever baptised?
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wife swapping,child molestion, adultery.... i believe that a wt article once said the above.. know any instances of the above among elders?
I was chatting to a friend of my wife recently who just happens to have grown up a dub. Her bf worked in a posh hotel with a health suite and was cleaning late one night when he went into the sauna to find a group of guys at it with each other. One of them was a local dub who was also an elder. Made me laugh so hard I nearly pee'd myself
http://www.watchtowerinformationservice.org/mysister.html
and also the young man's story.
http://www.watchtowerinformationservice.org/mystory.html.
he says she dresses like a vamp and likes boys, she'll get laid before too long and leave all this nonsense behind, hopefully.
My 20 year old sister was the same - she was hyper JW and pioneered and was scathing of my disdain for the dubs, until she got her cherry picked that was. She DA'd a couple of months ago
